My sister has needed my help less and has taken to controlling a day care worth of babies all by herself. That being said I have been back to my normal work schedule and things around the Cudzilo house are really getting back to a new normal.
With a new work schedule and a little more free time I have fallen back to my old hobby of “the house”! Andy spent a weekend away at a hockey tournament and there was a home show in town so I went alone. Great idea. I booked a few people to come in and give us some estimates. I just needed to know some prices. It’s so hard if you don’t have a friend or family member in the business to really know how much anything is really going to cost.
The first estimate for a new garage door came last week. It was a little bit of shock but it was good to get a number. A goal. To know what we were going to need to make those ugly wooden doors disappear into an automatic one.
I think the garage might have just taken a back seat tonight. We had an estimate come in for bath fitters. We’re both really excited and pretty positive about moving forward with it. The other work in the bathroom will include putting in a new vanity and ripping up the tile floor and putting down linoleum. The man who came tonight suggested that we do that work before they come. We also have a glass block wall that needs to come down that we are going to try to tackle ourselves and they will build the wall that replaces it.
So tonight I am watching as many youtube videos as possible on all these projects Andy and I will tackle alone and I am dreaming of the first job ever to take place in this house that will be done by an “expert”. Since signing the papers we have done everything ourselves. If my parents couldn’t do it, and if we couldn’t figure it out…it hasn’t gotten done.
I. Am. So. Excited.
The thought of work being done and coming with a guarantee is amazing. The thought of a bathroom that really shines and falls in line with the rest of the house that we have worked so hard on is almost unimaginable. And the thought of agreeing on such a large purchase together…and working for it together…and being excited about it together…is so worth the wait.
I always like to get a story that everyone can relate to on this site so I want to wrap up what I think the big point in here is…find something to work for. It’s been so long since we’ve had something with a specific number…a specific goal in mind…that we can work towards together. It already feels good. We ate dinner talking about it. We have videos to watch together. We are going to do (what I think) it “major” demolition. We have a common goal. We are going to make mistakes. We are going to probably argue. We are going to be proud. We are going to shower in a beautiful bathroom and be proud of the work…proud of each other…proud of our savings and proud of one of the three big house projects being knocked out of the park.
So we’re going to set up a separate savings account and we are going to watch that account climb. It’s going to climb with every extra hour that is worked. Climb with every dinner cooked at home. Climb with every coupon cut and climb with every single sacrifice we make….together.
So it doesn’t matter what stage of the game you are in. If your house is old, new, finished, needs work, kids, no kids, new job or old job…..pick something. Andy and I have always had dreams. We want to do a lot of things and we want to travel and watch our house get made beautiful. I don’t think you can really call it a goal until there are a few things in place. I think first…you need to agree on it. You both need to want it. You both have to agree that that is going to be your first priority and the other goals and dreams are going to wait. One at a time. Second…you need a number. I don’t think you can really save for anything without really knowing exactly how much it’s going to cost. Andy and I have talked about our three big house projects (the ones you need an expert for) but they have always been talk and when something smaller that we wanted, like dinner at a super nice restaurant because we think we deserve it, we just went for it because the projects were a dream…without a number. Third…you need to watch the pot grow. When all the money goes into an account it looks like you have more than you think. Like if you see you have 1,o00 dollars you could think you could buy it now…but you can’t see 300 for groceries…200 for car/gas…etc…then you only have 100. The pot needs to be separate. You need to see how close you get every single day. Think of it as a diet but every time you lose a pound you can pick where it comes from and see the difference (hey, a girl can dream…huh?)
So do it for yourself. Do it for your spouse. Just do it. I’ll bet you’ll have a little more pep in your step at work knowing where it is going. You and your other will have something to do together…to talk about it or plan for it…or in any way you can get ready for it. Pick that place on the map you always wanted to go….but get an itinerary and call the travel agent and find out how much it’s going to be. Pick a house project. Pick out a new vehicle. Pick out some new furniture. Whatever you do…just pick. When the dream you’ve had for so long comes closer and closer to fruition…you will feel unstoppable.